Shifting balance and another chance

[Jamesjohn]

quote:Originally posted by LeeP:
By the way, there's a new way that I define how things are going when they are good between us (and hopefully different from the old cycle): I am relaxed because I no longer feel I am auditioning for him, I am being me, period. If he doesn't like it, then I won't be happy anyway. I don't get focused on the goal (of rebuilding with him) such that I ignore the things about that that I see and don't like. I am still slightly detached. He doesn't assume I will take him back and so he works for my attention and affection. (He actually thanks me for spending time together and asks my permission to hug or kiss me. I swear he likes that). This is what changed 5 weeks ago when he changed his mind again. It seems to still be working. Yay for the new management.

Wow, Lee, I don't know if you realize just how powerful this last paragraph is. This shows sooo much growth and self-realization. I'm so happy for you!

I really liked the auditioning part, too. That was something I had thought about, but the way you worded it really struck me.

BTW, I also think that the getting mad part was a great 180 for you.

YOU ARE THE WOMAN!!!!