Shifting balance and another chance

[Jamesjohn]

"Am I being foolish about this?"

I wouldn't call it foolish. I think every one of us has had these feelings at some point. I know that I did.

"He came home and he wants me."

Keep this in mind.

"The more I push for it, the more he'll resist, probably."

Not probably, but definitely.

"Is there a more effective way to handle this quickly?"

Quickly? Not that I know of.

This is a tough point in the piecing "process". I don't think that anyone here would think it's uncommon. Or easy to get through.

You've come pretty far, and your goal is in sight. It's hard to not rush it along, but it's very necessary to slow down.

Remember, progress, not perfection?!

My suggestion would be to keep doing what you've been doing. It seems to have been working lately. Keep your distance, and let him work through some of the stuff on his own for awhile.

You said your piece, and there's nothing wrong with that. Just back off now, see what he does, and don't bring it up again for awhile. You'll know when the time is right to do this again.

Keep your expectations as low as you can at this point. Don't chase him off by jumping back into it too quick. Keep doing what you've been doing for yourself these past few months, and give him PLENTY of space.

Don't panic, and don't react to anything.

I REALLY hated this part, it was very, very frustrating. It took a LONG time for me to get to some kind of closure, and it wasn't exactly the way that I wanted it, or in the time-frame that I wanted it. But it did come, just the same.

Stay away from those damn "talks" that always get the two of you in trouble!! Just enjoy each other when you can.

Keep the new management team in charge, and remember to make him work to get you back, baby!!

P.S. Have you figured out the "4 week wall" yet?!

[ April 17, 2002, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: Jamesjohn ]