****what ends up happening is she buries things and they eat away at her soul
She has to deal with these issues. If she cannot deal with them, she cannot deal with any other problems.
****In fact, she likened my snooping to her being raped at an early age
OUCH. I feel of both of you. I feel sorry for her that she had to go through that. I'm also sorry that she took her pain out on you and associated it with you.
Don't take that personally. Sometimes people full of pain just lash out.
----- My gut feeling is that she still has MAJOR issues with the rape. You are caught in the middle.
Hate and love are on the complete ends of the spectrum, but it's the one's we love that we hurt the most.
She has never fully healed (if one can do so) from this traumatic experience and therefore she cannot deal with other issues, such as marital problems.
