I think Jokerman has it right on ! W lives in fantasy world of OM. She has no real history with him, idealizes him (even to the extent of "adopting" to wanting to be in his profession etc...) and probably believes he is "perfect" for her. On the other end is your R.. long history with life's ups and downs. So she digs up from the past and uses any and all negatives whether real or imagined she can think of to keep the present "reality" of your R from encroaching upon her fantasy with OM.. of course she has no idea what she is doing.. no self recognition at all and can barely notice your changes especially the positive ones (whether physical or behavioral). My guess is her mind is consumed by OM thoughts and the fantasy so it is extremely difficult if not impossible for her to see or feel much else. Your description of the wedding reception was quite interesting btw.. I think if I were there I would have phoned her ! " Hello, W.. um would you mind not SMSing OM while we are in public together ?" Interesting also to think about what sort of emotional things being at a wedding with you did to her ?
I am trying to recall.. did you say that OM was single or M ? I am sort of just thinking ahead..
Interesting also to think about what sort of emotional things being at a wedding with you did to her ? 