Well, just had a long R talk with W. It came straight off a fight. W was getting progressively angrier for one reason or another, and eventually started yelling/snapping at one of our girls. I was walking over there and picked our D2 up, and W snapped at me. I calmly stated "you seem distressed, and I'm not entirely sure why." W responds with "Of course I am - I've been busting my ass cleaning, I'm tired, the girls won't nap, and you just undermined my authority." I started to let it go, which would almost be more of the same - more of the same might also have been a good "f you and f your authority" - but, instead I told her I don't feel she has the right to claim I undermined her authority, and that she may be stressed, tired, and whatnot, but she shouldn't start taking it out me and the girls. Well, this lead into her reaming into me, claiming I never do my share of work around the house..... hrm, I'd just been thinking the same about her until this cleaning spree. This all somehow lead into R and A discussion. So, I don't know if I really started it, or her, or it just happened.
What came out of this was that W doesn't think she can ever get over the fact I read her email - violating her privacy and trust. I validated my a$$ off during this whole discussion, but also presented my side of things, including making her realize she violated a heap of trust herself, and continues to do so. The last two things in the conversation were D talk and MC talk. She asked me "What do you think would happen if I decided I didn't want to do this anymore?" (Hey, ain't that my line? Well, somewhere in there I did say I didn't know how much longer I could live like this.) I answered with a question: "I don't know - you tell me." The key thing she mentioned was that she'd probably get primary custody - I acknowledged this. I asked her if she'd looked into or thought of all the implications of D - the kids, the house, etc. She told me I'd get the house (hooray :P). She mentioned standard custody rules, "unless you chose to fight it." I didn't say one iota about my thoughts about what would happen in a D proceeding - partly b/c I still don't know for sure what I'd do or fight for. The last thing was MC - she's still more than willing, and said she'd talked to a couple (not sure I trust that), and they said it's better to start than not (I don't fully believe this opinion) - I'm going to go ahead and contact a few my insurance covers next week and go from there. But, I've also got to call around for a new IC. Going to be a busy week.
A couple of other things she said: * She's going to see an IC starting this Monday. * Given the good time we'd just had on our 4th of July trip, she was on the verge of saying "goodbye" (to OM) until I blew up that night. Can't say I truly believe this statement, but I do still admit it was a stupid thing to have happened.
