I'm also concerned that my animosity and inability to forgive W will stretch into our post-divorce relationship, negatively affecting our kids. So, I constantly ponder whether or not it's best to cut my losses and end it now. My rational side tells me that's not the way things would play out - there is no "cut my losses" - so, stop thinking that. But, irrational side still sits there with his little hot poker poking away at me.
