The only thing I really want to reply to is the money thing. IF it's both of your money to spend, then she has the right to spend it. If somehow it's your money alone, and in a marraige, that really doesn't happn much, then I would not necessarily go out of my way to "give it to her". Again, denying access to money that is rightfully hers to spend, or "allowing" her access to it is not really the same as "giving" it to her and as such, I don't think there's an issue...other than IF it's joint money and you feel you need to control access to it, well, that's more control is it not?
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P.S. Don't worry, I don't know what the hell I just said either...I think there's a point in there somewhere.
