Hate to post updates when I've got an open question (and since my post are so long), but...
Mom was over and had wanted to go swimming in our pool with the girls, and we went out swimming around 6:15. W got home today around 6:30. I'd also invited my best friend and his wife to come over with their kids to go swimming - had invited them to come over any time on the weekend, to keep me from getting lonely, but turns out tonight was the only time they could make it and we decided to make an after-swimming dinner of it. These two are the only ones outside of myself and W (and OM) to know about the A. I've been exceedingly uncomfortable having W and these two together, when they all know that they all know. But, I think I'm the only one that is so uncomfortable. The other day I asked my best friend about it, and he said he was fine and could remain civil as long as she didn't mention OM - something she used to do all the time. W hadn't mentioned OM in passing conversation around me except maybe once since d-day. When talking to our friends about a restaurant she went to while out of town, she mentioned OM in reference to "My friend, <OM>, would call it food porn." It was very quick, and I don't know that anyone else caught it (particularly when OM and my best friend share names - different spelling, thank God), but I did. "My friend" my a$$. The only person in the room who didn't know he's more than just her "friend" was my mom... and like I've said before, my mom has had her suspicions for a long time and is 100% certain they're at least in an EA. Was all I could do to not blurt out laughing and say "your FRIEND, huh? HAH!".
All in all, except for that moment, had a good time tonight. After W got home, she pretty much crashed and I spent the time swimming with my mom, two girls, my two good friends, and their two kids. Quite happy to have that time, and something I intend on creating more of, with or without W being there to enjoy the time with us.
Snooping: Is it snooping if you are sitting watching TV and can easily see your W's laptop screen because she's sitting 6 ft away with it pointing right at you? My W sits like this every night - we've stopped sitting in our home office, where her screens are pointed away from me. We both sit in the living room, now, and just by the way we sit comfortably every night, I can look right at her screen by turning my eyes like 1 degree from the TV screen. Of course, I can't read it, but I can see what's up on her screen. I can easily see that she's using Google Talk, and I know from previous snooping that the only person she has on Google Talk is OM (I suspect they changed from AIM because they thought I was capturing AIM conversations... which I never was). You might ask, "why don't you sit somewhere else?" or "why don't you go do something else?" The thing is, I do and I do - but, I have to sit, veg, and watch TV every once in a while, and I can't help but see her darn laptop screen in my peripheral vision. I constantly wonder, is this something she's doing on purpose? Does she *want* me to say something about it? I mean, it's so ungodly obvious that I can see her screen. I feel like a putz for not saying "My god, woman! Stop talking to that s.o.b. already!"
One other new/strange/disturbing thing from the weekend. Went shopping with my mom and D2s. While out shopping, saw someone that looked similar to OM - not just like him, or even real close, but close enough to trigger the memory of his face. I can't not possibly describe the rage that ramped up in me so incredibly fast. This when seeing a guy who for all intents and purposes didn't really look like OM. I hope and pray I am never in physical proximity to OM... ever... ever, again.
