I don't think I've mentioned this about my W's history. I am her second husband. She was married to someone she met through an online game (a MUD, if you know what that is) quite a number of years ago. They were married a few years, and then she says he started going out of town to have sex with someone he met online. She found out by snooping some online chat logs. This was circa 1997 or 1998. She eventually had a retaliatory affair with someone she met online. She tells much more awful things, like her XH tried to get her to do a threesome with OW. Well, since d-day, I've really wondered if this is how things played out. Her current A is with someone *she* met online, again in an online game (Everquest). I'm wondering if it was in fact her that had the first affair, and that perhaps this is a pattern - she met her current OM playing World of Warcraft. So, I've given more and more thought to contacting her XH to get his side of the story. Is this a stupid idea? (I'll have to do some work to track him down, but a couple of our friends are old friends of his.)
Timeline note: We got together just before their divorce was final, in late 1999. I didn't know their divorce wasn't final, at the time, and she never talked about the whole divorce proceedings while we were building our relationship.
