Glad to hear C is going well. They usually do want you to push to talk to WAS about the A. Mine did. I just told her that was not something I believed in doing, and why.
Quote: I really think that she hopes to keep both relationships going... but, I've heard her say otherwise when snooping (eg. "if/when I divorce", "walk away from this marriage", etc). It's just so bizarre to have a good and fun family evening with her, but have her getting her initimacy and friendship needs fulfilled elsewhere. Heck, I probably just summarized what every LBS on this board feels. But, is it really this usual for the WS to give absolutely no indication of talking about the A - to go on as if d-day never happened? She hasn't brought up the A, hasn't mentioned us working on our R, and I have every indication she won't until the next time she's liquored up.. This freaking elephant is killing me.
Totally common. That's what my W did for months. She dropped the bombs and then didn't speak of it for a LONG time. Really, not for about 3-4 months I think. It killed me too, but I learned to deal with it. Detaching is a wonderful thing...
Quote: P.S. Loaned my C copies of DB and DR. I keep describing DB so wrong to her - hopefully she gets it and agrees with the methodology enough to help me work it, or at least enough to not hinder me and suggest things counter.
I am REALLY interested in hearing what she thinks. I may do the same with my C too. Please post the results!!!
