I keep seeing people talk about "acting as if". I read this part in DR, and the sense I get from the message board is different from what I get in the book. From the book, I came to understand it simply as you're acting as if your spouse will reacting well to your words and actions - basically, don't assume they'll react negatively, act as if they'll react positively. From the message board, I almost get the sense that acting as if means acting as if the affair doesn't exist. This seems like denial, to me, although it is damn tempting sometimes. Can anyone clarify or put together the two?
