Ever since d-day, and the start of my snooping, I've found myself being MUCH MUCH MUCH more secretive of my own computer use than I ever was. I used to not have a password on my desktop - now I do, and a very secure one at that. I've secured our firewall so that someone can't get in from outside and delve into things (ie. OM is geek enough to be dangerous - just probably not as geek as me). I've set my laptop to password protected screensaver after 5 minutes. Now, I just received a cool thing I ordered that is a wireless USB security device - locks your computer instantly if you walk away from it, while you're carrying this key fob thing.
What stinks about this is that I wasn't ever this secretive. Before this, my only "secret" was that I have a fairly standard password that only one other person knows - the same best friend I've told about the A - and I've never told W this password, even though I know hers. Now, I'm hiding my books from her (DB, DR, SI), making sure W can't read my screen if she walks by, and making sure nobody can access my computers. All the while, W hasn't locked down any of her computers, hasn't changed her email passwords, and in general has done very little to hide her communcation with OM. Granted, she now has a separate cell phone she doesn't think I know about, has changed the instant messenger app she uses to talk with OM, and is hiding a great number of other things she doesn't think I know about - but, for the most part, almost everything can be attributed to OM setting things up or suggestions he's made. At least, that's what I gather. Oh, certainly, the significance of the things I'm hiding is so much less than what she is hiding, but I've had very little to be secret about until this A came around. Further, I now have to be "mysterious" to make her wonder about me. Sometimes it feels like fighting deception with deception.
