Quote: It sounds like you do not ML at this point.
Yeah, I guess I didn't mention that earlier. We've ML three times this year (very unsatisfying), and it was rather infrequent before that. What stinks is we were having GREAT sex - best we've ever had kind - just prior to the start of the A. My memory is faulty, but I think it even continued after the OA had started. She had a surgery right at the beginning of the year, in which she also got her tubes tied (half choice, half medical necessity). Then, OM came into town thrid week of January and they had their first PA contact. After that, zero desire for us to ML coming from her - every time was initiated by me, and I'd tried a number of times outside of those three with various excuses. I have every indication she has no desire to ML, and even if she initiated (which she has never really done - not her style), I don't know that I could, anyway - too much taint in the air, right now.
Right now, we have very little physical contact - a hug here and there and the minimal spooning. I honestly feel I should give a little more of the occasional brushes of her back as I walk by, gentle pulling of her hair, just simple touches, but it's been hard to give what hasn't been received.
Quote: BTW, I would enlist your C's support in DBing and get her the book.
Planning on it. Definitely if I figure how much I'm paying my C, the $14 for the book isn't going to break the bank! (and it just might help us stay on the same track)
Quote: Good luck, hang in there, and keep posting - we are with you.
Definitely if I figure how much I'm paying my C, the $14 for the book isn't going to break the bank! (and it just might help us stay on the same track)