One nice thing did happen today, which seemed particularly nice since I haven't been snooping, so I don't read anything into it. W called me at work this morning to tell me she wasn't feeling well and wasn't going to school, and talked about a few minor home things. Then as we were saying our "bye"s, she put in the quick "love you", which she has done all of maybe 3 times since d-day. I've done the same about 4 or 5 times since d-day. I try really hard to not say "I love you" at all unless in response - something I seem to have read in these message boards and books.
So, I have a couple of related questions. Is it okay to use terms of endearment? We have our names for each other (eg. "sweetie", "baby", etc.). During our R, we've rarely called each other by name - we've used our little names instead. Other question is, is it okay to initiate snuggling or spooning? We used to spoon a lot in bed, and we didn't at all after d-day until one morning she spooned me - I'm pretty sure as a test to see if I would react or return the sentiment (which things just so happened that morning that I didn't get a chance, although I would have liked to). Then, I started spooning her a few times. She's spooned me once since, and the last time was when I spooned her a couple of nights ago. It just feels odd and a little like pursuing, because she doesn't seem to initiate it all that much, and when she does, I'm reading things into it (testing, guilt, etc.)
