I need to vent briefly. So, I've been taking good care of the house, making sure it stays clean - picking up after myself, the girls, and even W at times. W has been thankful here and there. My C was worried I'm setting a precedent for something I can't keep up with in the long run - she may be right, but as I figure it, I'm doing this 90% for me (stress relief and general happiness with my surroundings) and 10% so W has no nits she can pick with me. Well, this morning I moved a couple of things in an attempt to keep things straight, and as it turns out W had put them in those specific spots to grab in the morning. As I was packing up to leave for work, she comes trucking through the living room and says, in a laughing-but-I-know-to-be-serious tone, "I know you're just trying to help, but you've been a completely counterproductive this morning." and proceeded to tell me it was those two things I moved. Of course, inside I wanted to say "f you b**tch. you can shove your 'counterproductives' up your a$$ and pi$$ off." - instead, I just said "sorry about that", finished packing up, and left after giving our girls a kiss goodbye.
I recently finished reading the part of DR that discusses criticism vs compliments/praise. I've known I've been bad about this in the past - I lay down small to medium criticism so much more frequently and easily than compliments/praise. Definitely something I've been slowly working on even before the A and will continue to work on. This morning made me realize that W is almost as bad as I am about this (although, she's better about frequent compliments/praise), and assuming things work out, she's damn sure got stuff to work on herself.
