Thank ya'll for the advice. I think I'm going to have to figure out how to explain the concepts of DB to my C and make sure she's on board with letting me follow this path, even if she isn't going to target that herself. One of my stated goals during our first session (ie. for our sessions overall) was to improve myself, regardless of what's going on with the M. She might be taking this a little too far, and like you say, suggesting things that help *me*, but not the M. I did question heavily the idea of spilling the beans, stating that W is so far into her fantasy world right now that it won't do any good for the M and might actually hurt it - but, C did think it would be best for *me* to do this. I honestly feel that I *can* bottle this stuff up and release it later calmly - and if I can't do it calmly, then I will walk away until I can. But, actually thinking about it further and discussing with a friend, none of the items I feel the need to dump really eats at me like the overall A does - they're just more little tidbits. So far, I think I've said only two stupid things during our A and R talks (of which there were 3) - each was a negative comment about OM, which fell on deaf ears and was countered, so I won't make that mistake again.
Part of my problem in discussing this with my C is that I can't explain DB too well, and things like not discussing the A or R. I don't know if it's going to just take more reading of DR (the book I have) or DB (should I buy this?) to be able to explain this myself. It seems every time I mention something about DB, I say it slightly wrong and my C is like "hrm, I don't know about that", and I have to double back and say "well, I explained it slightly wrong." Is there anywhere that has a good summary of what DB is all about? Is it something I can pull from one of the books and just have my C read?
