(If you're still here, thanks for sticking around. I know my description of my sitch isn't quite as lively as Believing_Isaiah's. If you're reading, Believing, thanks for your story - hope you feel better soon.)
Through on-going snooping, I've discovered the following specific things (that I'd love to forget)…
* I know of every instance when they've had opportunity to have PA ("only" three, until…) * OM stayed in the same hotel with her on that trip (see above) * OM bought her a cell phone, which he gave to her on that trip - through more snooping, I even have the phone number (would be funny to just call it, no? … yeah… funny) * Their sexual (online or otherwise) relationship is all about BDSM, something from her past that we never revived to any great extent (not that I'd be opposed - she just had seemed to put it mostly in her past… and, according to her, I'm not "broken" enough (she said this to me during aforementioned drunkenness)). * Their emotional relationship is all about shared pain and comfort/protection. (God help our girls psyches if these two end up together with custody.)
Knowing these things has really hindered my actions. So, if you're snooping, as everyone else says on here... STOP SNOOPING. It's an obsession and it will attract all of your focus energy. Don't snoop - focus on better things, like DB'ing, improving yourself, making yourself happy, and realizing you will make it through even if the marriage doesn't.
