(Note: You'll see me mention snooping below - my official first day of no snooping AT ALL was today - wish me luck in keeping it up.)
If you read my first link above, you'll see the first update to my sitch. Basically, W went on a 9 day trip with our 2 D2's to her home town, visiting her parents. Through snooping, I discovered that OM was going to stay at the same hotel W and D2's were staying at - he'd be there the last 4 nights. Further, they planned on using a baby monitor to allow her to go to his room while leaving the girls in her room (bad bad bad). Prior to d-day, she had told me that she was going to meet up with OM for a day just to run around. So, on d-day, I told her she can't see him when she's there (ie. if she wants to work on this marriage). She later told me she has to see him so she can say some things to him face-to-face - implying a cut off, but not explicitly stated. She also told me they planned to not talk for 3 months after this trip, which I saw no evidence of in their on-going communication, before or after the trip (the first and only "big lie" I feel I've caught her in).
W got back this past Sunday evening. She picked up some bug while there, so was relatively sick the next couple of days. This, plus being away from OM, seemed to have her in a bad mood, so she was spouting negativity all over the place - I just detached myself and let her go on. Her spirits seemed to have picked up by yesterday, and she's less sick. Being around each other is still a bit funky - just not sure what to say or do, so I do little more than respond when talked to.
Next: My Snooping Knowledge (or, What I Wish I Didn't Know)
