Shifting balance and another chance

[Jamesjohn]

Lee, my dear friend, let me remind you of a couple of the DB prime directives.

"If at first you don't succeed, try something different".

"More of what works, less of what doesn't work".

I'm not gonna tell you that what you did was wrong. I'm not gonna tell you the what you did was against DB'ing basics, 'cuz it's not. What I DO want to tell you is that, right or wrong, part of me has been wanting to see you do this for a long time. You just had to be ready to do it. Your H has had it pretty easy, you've given him everything he's wanted. You've been nice, you've been kind, you've been understanding, and you've listened to him. This has seemed to work for you up to a point, but it's never seemed to take you over the "hump", so to speak. You've been working VERY hard on your R, I think it's time to drop the rope and let him pick up his end.

I know it's tough to do this, it was hard for me. I had to get fed up with all the crap before I did it, and I felt bad for a few days after. Sometimes it takes doing something VERY different to get results. All I can say is that this is part of what worked for me.

Hang tough for a couple of days. Don't fret about it too much, and DON'T call to apologize. You may not have made a mistake here, give it some time to see what happens next. You've done a lot of growing, maybe it's time for HIM to grow up a bit!

Don't worry about him, worry about you.

Can I have the next dance after Kent?!