Shifting balance and another chance

[Jamesjohn]

Hi Lee!

Don't worry about taking a time-out. It's definitely something that needs to be done every once in awhile. The rest of the KLA tapes will be there for you when you're ready!!

What's going on that's making you think that D-day is on his mind and just around the corner? That some of the things he's doing he's doing for "closure"? Are you just being guilty of trying to read his mind?

I'm glad you're taking some time for yourself to regroup between your visits. And I can't blame you a bit for being sick of anticipating and having your "talks". It seems like that been a big thing with the two of you for a long time. How's that been working for you so far?!

"Part of me wants to be selfish right now and tell him I don't want him to disrupt my life (No OR talks) for a while. No contact, even, if
necessary to avoid the talks. I need a break from the constant fear to think clearly."

Right on! If that's what you want, I say go for it! One of the biggest parts of the LRT is moving on with your life, beyond the R. If you're in constant fear of what's going to be said, you're going to be reacting to things that are going on.

It sounds like the 2 of you are doing some things to have fun together. I think this is GREAT! Don't let R talk screw it up.

I don't see anything wrong with laying out some boundaries, and I don't think you've been screwing up. I'm glad to see you're reaching a point where you're tired of the crap again, and that you're recognizing some of your needs

In my opinion, he needs to stop "wanting to talk", and needs to start "wanting to do". You're a great woman, and I think he's screwing up. He needs to start realizing this.

Want me to call him?!