For what it is worth, I will give you an x-LD perspective, from a woman's point of view. Keep in mind thast I am now divorced... so...
Anyways.
I don't see anything 'wrong,' per se, with scheduled sex, IF you approach it the way Mrs. Nop is suggesting. Meaning... the whole kit and kabootle is thrown in.... a date nite, if you will. Meaning... you are going to schedule the next 4 to 5 hours with each other... and talk about things that DO NOT relate to your day to day life.... work, kids, schudles, etc. You actually talk like NORMAL people, about your respective interests, arts, philosophy, things in general. You have dinner. You go to a movie... maybe go to a club and prentend you are meeting each other for the first time.
Do not expect this whole scheduling thing to work if you are showing up in the bedroom at 9 p.m. and at 9:15 p.m. you plan on being hot and heavy into foreplay, with candles lit and great music playing. IT WILL NOT WORK!!!!!!!!! As a matter of fact, it could actually work in the opposite fashion and put even MORE pressure on her to perform.
What you want to concentrate on is building the emotional connection with her BEFORE the encounter begins, and you do that in a very innocous way. Subtle. Spend time, when you do get into bed, cuddling, kissing, hugging, rubbing (non-errogensous zones)... let her build her fire slowly.... make to point to necessarily culminating with SEX per se... but just connecting with her in a physical way... the more she feels pressured to make you 'cum' and the more pressured she feels to orgasm to make YOU feel good about YOU... the less likely she is to become 'turned on.'
