Wow I see there is not alot of positve things to say about scheduled sex. I did read a few posts by an LD women on here who said it really helped.
we are both actually really excited about this idea for several reasosn and this might really help us.
First off she suffers from alot of anxiety about sex, iniating sex and wondering if I want sex. That anxiety becomes a big turn off for her. This new system will totaly eliminate that anxiety. On our off days she doesn't have to worry about initiating or if I am trying to initiate. So we can both relax. On our 'on' days she and I can both mentaly prepare literly a month ahead fo time for the sex so there isn't any stress and every thing is more relaxed.
We have been talking about this new system and we already feel alot better. We are celebrating a relaxed 'off' day right now with no worries. I am very optimistic that this will reduce anxiety for her and be a right step in her being able to get turned on.
One last thing this will do to help is at the end of the month we will be forced to sit down and shedule again for the next month, and this wil be agreat time to have a scheduled talk to fix and improve the system as needed.
overall I am so optimistic because one of our biggest hurdles is her anxiety issues that seem to be one of the biggest killers of her libido. We both are excited that this is really going to help her relax and in tunr be able to put energy into enjoying sex.
When we were developing this I honestly saw her get excited and enthusiastic about sex...it seemed like she couldn't wait for her scheduled day.
I'll keep an update but I think this is going to work.
