Yes, the "cleansing" was part of that idea, JJ- a new start for the New Year. It really has helped a lot. I feel much more comfortable there since. Mind you, H is responsible for part of that too. He's a lot more relaxed having me there, and I can feel a difference.
I'd love to remodel, but finances will prevent that. When we get to that point (thinking positively ), I'd like to make several smaller changes that will be fun to plan together. One room we had never done any work on before was the bedroom so I think we could start there- start by switching it to another room. Get new bedding, little things like that.