Thanks for the pep talk JJ. These are all things I need to keep in mind.
I may update frequently because I can tell things are changing and moving. NO question - we are not even remotely out of the woods - he's still dealing with A LOT. (guilt and ow aftermath) But his attitude is quite different. He's just more THERE. It's like we've moved out of "intention mode" and into "action mode", even though there's still lingering baggage from the last chapter. It's exciting but I'm more cautious than ever - so much has happened that I am very afraid to trust.
We have in fact spent the last three days together and already, the comfort zone is much better than it was. We have done things from OR talks to playing Nintendo (silly- but one of our old faves). Sometimes it feels like it used to when things were good. Relaxed.
baby steps:
We're going away tomorrow night for the weekend. He put our photo back up. He asked me to put my rings back on. He's wearing his. He told me where his box of ow stuff is and I admitted to the snooping I have done. We are slowly filling in some blanks there.
An old friend showed up at the house last night while we were there and it shocked him to see me there - he asked what was going on with us, and H told him we were getting back together, that he'd been with someone else but realized he still loves his wife and we want to work it out.
We have been considering an oppurtunity to rent the house to someone else for awhile and he said he's changed his mind and would rather we work towards my moving back. I had to tell him that I want him to be sure and not feel pressured...
