You've been here before, a couple of times as a matter of fact. The biggest difference is that this time you are stronger, wiser, and more prepared than you've ever been in the past. I think you really do know what to do.
Your analogy to him being like a "wild animal" is great. Keep that in perspective.
Remember to keep a slight distance, and to let him do the pursuing. Keep your hand out, but make HIM do the reaching. Sounds like he's sloooowly working towards you again. Remember that he still has stuff to work out on his own that you can't help him with.
What to work on first? You said that you're both a little nervous around each other. What can you do to create a better comfort zone? I think you both expect / dread / and anticipate the "OR" talk whenever you're together. Maybe make an agreement that your time together is just that, time to BE together, and not a time to talk about the future or the past. Maybe set aside a certain time for OR talks? Maybe just in C sessions? Or he doesn't even really have to agree with it, YOU can just do it, tell him you don't want to talk right now, just enjoy his company.
Remember to have fun together, try to laugh together. Be real friends, and try to enjoy each other again first. The rest will fall into place with more time.
You're still doing great, just a little more patience, my friend!!
JJ
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