CM, you know I go back to the beginning with you too and I just want to underline something dee said but maybe in a different way.
You keep talking about that time where you told H about your feelings and then things got better for a few weeks, then back to normal/bad again.
I am here to tell you that my W has said the SAME thing, hell, maybe even thinks it right now, after all this we've been through, but I ASSURE you it's not for lack of caring at all. It's the simple fact that I think and see things differently than she does and if she would just do me the courtesy of being open and honest WHEN SHE SEES something she doesn't think is in accordance with "the new way" things are supposed to be, I would work to correct it.
I am not 100% on board with Cunningham but he does have some good points, especially in terms of communication between men and women. I think that if you can recognize that your H failing to do some of the things he says he will is NOT evidence of him lacking love or concern but POSSIBLY just a difference of perspective, one that can be adjusted slightly to make both of you happy, you will be better off.
