It's been awhile since I've posted - there's not much new to tell, just the same old crap. Very few conversations with my wife, always businesslike, usually related to my son. I still get the impression that she's aggressively defensive, trying to make sure that she takes the hard line, worst case with me so I don't surprise her in any way. It's funny she sees the need, because I'm happy and pleasant, firm without being argumentative. Almost like she needs a fight to continue blaming me or something.
I read so many similarities on this forum. The latest is how often the WAW's family approaches them, and tries to convince them of their mistakes. Honestly, I think it makes it worse. Seems like they have to suspend some reality to explain their actions, when in fact they don't, if they could see what those of us here have learned. I guess the problem is that we're not trustworthy anymore, and often their friends and family aren't either, since they question their decisions. It's really too bad - I think most of us have some serious sympathy for what our spouses are going through. It would anger my wife to hear me say it, but she's in much worse shape than me emotionally.
You can't really help people who don't want it, but controlling our own behavior is something we can do, and that's one lesson that hopefully we've all learned.
