I have to admit to being somewhat skeptical when I first read of your "new plan" to basically try to get her to "think" about these things. I have softened a bit but I am still worried about one thing.
It seems like you are accepting YOUR perspective as the correct one and that what SHE "accepts" or her perspective is "wrong". You may be right, but I have come to think of VERY little in married life as right and wrong, just two different perspectives.
Since validation is one of the keys to communication, I see your campaign of "mind changing" as dangerously close to invalidating your W's position altogether.
That all said, I understand where you are coming from and if it works for you, then more power to you. You think there are certain things she is just not seeing and want to make sure she does. I just wouldn't be too surprised if you find out that she saw them all along, just in a different way than you do. That may be why it's "not working" so far. She may very well be "seeing" your point and just doesn't agree.
