As usual, Grasshopper is right - Mars/Venus is an example, and there are others out there as well. I think the key is to ask questions - Careful, well-timed questions - to allow my W to see the bigger picture of where I am, and where she's going. I have to credit her with being smart enough to see that big picture, but first she has to be slowed down enough to see the scenery a bit - she's really "executing her plan" for a new life and not considering the facts as they were, or as they are. What she wants and what she's accepting are radically different things, and she'll see that in time - time we don't have.
I've remained detached in large part - no "I love you" BS or anything like that - and have stayed on my GAL plan extremely consistently. They are, as many have said, good ideas no matter what. The difference is the questions I've been asking to encourage her to THINK. It's working, but not yet "successful".....
