Well, I'm making H "work for it" like you guys suggested.
We had a great talk then I went a few days without contacting him, and lo and behold - he sought me out quite aggressively.
He's been pretty vocal about feeling "optimistic" about our future and trying to clear everything else out of the way... (OW)
He's keeping his mood steady and upbeat around me, despite whatever is going on with her.
Yesterday I brought up Christmas. He and ow had been planning to be together (her coming here) and after last week, I haven't asked where that stands. Well, I actually told him how I feel- that he won't be able to be passive about this one, I know he's under pressure, but how he treats me will affect where we go from here. I also told him if she comes here, chances are we'll run into each other, and I won't hide from it. It's a small town and I will be all over the place, and it might get uncomfortable for them. I also told him I don't want her around "my" friends.
He responded really well, actually. He said he wants to talk more and that he's stressed about the time ticking, but he's been planning to have this "done" by then, because he WANTS it done and because he wants to do "right" by me. He says he is working hard to be able to bring me home soon.
It felt really good to say what I needed to say, and have him encourage more. We actually had a great evening after that.
