I agree-you do not want to get back on that ride. Sounds to me like you H needs to stop having his cake and eating it too. Let him be the pursuer for a while, he needs to make his decision and stop stringing you along. I think the idea of ‘having an affair with your own H’ is ludicrous, although it serves her sorry butt right (must feel good to have that sort of...vindication) but do not let him forget that he is YOUR H, not hers. I liked your point about how you told him you thought their talking about his feelings for you may seem to her like they were working on their R…good insight-I hope he ‘got it’.
She is just a toad in the road-and you know what happens to them...they get squished.
Don’t make it so easy for him-make him work for it. I love the idea of getting away for a bit and not telling him with who or where. Let him see how it feels.
I also think he needs to grow up. But that’s very easy for me to say as I am not living either or your lives...just MHO but he sure sounds confused. Maybe a wake-up-call-shake-him-to-his-core is on the horizon?
