You're right,you ARE letting fear overtake you right now, it's pretty evident in your last couple of posts. As long as your fears are running the show, you're REACTING to the situations instead of ACTING on them.
You've been here before and have recovered from it. Heed wise Kent's advice and get away from things. You're edging towards getting back on the roller-coaster with him, instead of just watching.
Re-read your old posts, and look back at how things for you have tended to slip back into old patterns, and what things you did to change the dance steps. You've done great things before, and you can do them again.
Don't get too caught up in what he says he's feeling or what you THINK he's feeling. Remember actions versus words.
Remember to get pissed-off every once in awhile. You've earned it and deserve it. Quit making things so easy for him.
Now that he's realizing how great you are, give him small little doses of HIM feeling the fears of losing YOU. Have faith, my friend!! You WILL pull yourself back up from this!!
[ November 15, 2001: Message edited by: Jamesjohn ]
JJ
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