one more thing, i now know why 2nd marriages fail at a higher rate then first ones, BECAUSE WE LBS WILL NOT GO THRU THIS PAIN AND SUFFERING AGAIN, we get harder and close off our hearts, because (sorry ladies) women hit there mid 30's and fantize about men that dont exist. i am and was a great husband, father and care giver. i have not changed that, she changed from a loving mother, to a lieing cheating marriage vals breaking person. she says i did this to her, WRONG, i did not, she did this to herself. if i was unhappy i would have spoken up to her about it, i would have chose a different path. we all can focus on ourselfs, make us better, but in the end were doing this and they chose not too change, instead they chose to live in the past with us and thats that. i dont see my wife changing and we all know that your wifes WILL NOT CHANGE EITHER. so i am done banging my head against the wall.
