Quote: i am getting to the point of WTF, i am doing the right things and she is still depressed.
STOP TRYING TO FIX HER! YOU CANNOT DO THAT! I believe if you look at it, this is an underlying problem in your marriage just like it is in mine. I would actually get angry because my W was not happy. It was MY fault she was not happy of course, right? I mean, if I was a good husband, father, did the things she liked, bought her things she wanted, etc, she WOULD BE HAPPY, and since she's not, then there's something wrong with ME. You see, it was always about ME. That was the problem, even HER problems were about me, even if they had nothing to do with me. I see this in you BIG TIME. You need to stop taking all this personally.
You may very well be doing all the right things, but for how long? A week? A month? What's that compared to years of the wrong things? You really expect it to happen this quickly. Please, snap out of that thinking. This takes time.
BTW, if you keep thinking negativly, negative things will happen. Try some PMA.
Sorry, got to run. I had to be blunt because I think you needed to hear that...again.
