You know Shippd, you seem really frustrated with your W again, and it seems to me that you are focusing on her again, her decisions, her feelings - and they have become the state of the M again.

The most powerful part of this DB stuff to me is the realization that your life is entirely your own - and your W's life is too. It seems that you are putting way too much emphasis on how your wife is feeling right now. I think you need to get back on track doing positive work on and for yourself - if you need to set a goal like working towards being a single dad, maybe that's what you should do, I personally think you can accomplish becoming a better dad, and man without PLANNING for the single part.

I understand that you feel very vulnerable right now, and I think you're feeling some dissonance between your expectations and reality right now. I can imagine I would feel the same thing (and I'd sure like to be in a position to feel that way). I think it's important right now to deal with the part of this situation that you can conrol: YOUR expectations. One of the concepts that works really well with disciplining children is positive redirection. If they're doing something you don't want them to do, don't just tell them not to do it, but give them something positive to do instead. I think right now you're starting to focus on what you can't control, and you're allowing yourself to feel all sorts of negative emotions that wont help either of you. Redirect your focus to something positive that you can control that will build you up rather than tear down yourself and possibly your family.

I think you have a really great opportunity here - don't give up.

PS: I think what your W is feeling is normal - the situation won't change that. She has to work at actively finding happiness in herself and her life. Unhappy people tend to project their unhappiness and blame others for it all. This is out of your hands and doesn't mean that your marriage wont work. This is her issue to deal with.

“No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it. ”
– Albert Einstein