GH, your right, in many ways i havent change shi$. i am the same guy i have always been. i am curently still attached to her emotionaly, and physicaly. i do need to detach and start living my life the way i want to without needing her there with me every step of the way. i need to start this today (which i will) my brother in law keeps telling me i dont need this, i deserve to have a wife that wants to be with me, that helps me when im down, that wants me to help them when they are down. his advice is to give up and find someone who excepts me for who i am. he is very religious, and tells me every day that i need jesus in my life and needs a wife who respects me and loves me. in many ways hes right, but he has a loving wife and great marriage. he has never been though this, so its easy for him to tell me to let her go, that i deserve better. because i have been a very faithful husband and great father, i have got her anything she has asked for, gone anywhere she wanted to go, gave her a life that i thought she wanted. but i and everyone i know were wrong, MY wife needs more, thats probaly why it hurts me so much, i have always showed her love and affection. but i have to do things for myself and my children now and detach from her in alot of ways. i will still be loving and caring, but i WILL not pursue her anymore. if that is the only reason she is still here then she will never change. and i do want a loving wife that show me as much affection and compasion as i show them. so today is a new day for me, in the end she may not like the new me but i cannot worry about that.
