GH she says so many things, and they are always changing. first she told me i was controlling, then it was i was too jealous, then i was always in a bad mood, then it was i chased off all her friends, and know its i cant open up to new people. all these things she says i do have come one at a time, like she says them and then thinks ok thats not totally true, so now i have to come up with something else, and so on and so on. some of the things she says i do are true, but only a few. but those things she has done also, which now she says she admits to and that means we are just not good for each other. im sorry for thinking you are blaming me for all this, in a way i do feel that way, but i do truely appricate your advice, almost waiting for it. and you have helped me, it might not seem that way but you have. now my question is this: how can i let her have her moods and detach from them, in 36years i have never been able to leave someone alone that i think is hurting, its my nature to try and help them heal. how do i keep quiet when i have always been a communiter. the things i need to do are not my nature, i can try but i fail easily and then get depressed when i do. like i said i am the type of person that likes to work hard, see the prize and then reap the benifits. how do i change that. how do i not fall back into this person. i dont know if i ever can, and why should i. i know somethings i have to change, thats a given, but i am who i am in many ways, just like she is who she is, i am willing to except some of her things i dont like, i just wish she would do the same to me. i asked her what i did that she did not like several months back, and i dont do those things anymore, she wanted to know what i didnt like about her, but she will not and has not changed them. we have talk alot in the last month, her needs and mine. we both agreed we would give each other what we needed. i have held my end of the bargin, its now up too her to do her part.
