Quote: she told me that she just wasnt getting much space and she really needed that right now. now remember she has asked for all the time that we are spending together. i told her that. she told me that she has been spending time with me because she didnt want me to get upset. (which really upset me)
So, does that make her right? It seems to me it does since you DID get upset for her telling you the truth. I hope you managed to explain to her that you were simply granting her the time she requested but that if she wants to spend more time away, that was fine too.
Quote: i then asked her if the last week was all fake. she said no, she likes spending time with me, but also needs her space.
It feels to me like she likes the idea of pursuing YOU and no matter whetehr it has been her initiating or you, she has begun to feel the pressure from you. She seems to need to feel like SHE's the one missing you, not the other way around. Just a hunch.
Quote: i dont know what else i can do anymore, i tried to detach and she comes around i thought because she wanted to see me. what else am i suppose to do.
Detach DOES NOT MEAN DISTANCE. You can detach AND see her. Actually, that's when you need to detach the most. Detaching mearly means not reacting to her emotions/words/moods as if they had true power over you.
As for what you are supposed to do, well, GAL, detach more and maybe one of those times she calls you to join in your reindeer games, you don't answer the phone and take that walk with d14 or go to the store by yourself. She may be telling you what to do, and usually I don't advocate just doing what the WAS says, but what she's telling you goes right along with what you know to do anyway.
Give her the space she wants. Cut down on the massages, cut down somewhat on the attention you pay her and just try to do your own thing more. She seems to want that and more importantly, you need to DO that.
