yea i know your right, if anything maybe he is there, but she asked me to come with her, not him!! thats a possitive right? i need to refocus on the possitives right now instead of the negitives, i know that, good thing a have alittle time left today for me to get my head right, before i see her. i know i can not push her, as you saw what she wrote me tuesday in email, she needs time to adjust to this, i just wish i could fast foward her to when she is ready to come home, hate sleeping in a king sized bed by myself.