you know, i understand what you are saying, and by reading other threads i do feel lucky that my r is where it is at. but i cant help be feel like i do. its starting to build up resentment towards her. i feel im getting more angry now then when i found out about her a. because it does seem like we so close and i can touch it but cant take it. i feel like a kid in a candy store without any money. i can look but thats it. thats pretty hard to swallow. its makes me more and more angry that i have no more say so in this r other then if i want to end it.(which i still dont at this time) i feel like she done the most damage to the r and im the only one willing to undo that. i guess i feel like she should be doing more to save this. how can you save something when i feel she is only going at it half **S. i know im just venting and probably pissing you off with my attitude, but man i am angry!!!