you guys are right, and i have been that confident guy, thats why i think she is wanting to be around me. its still hard though, putting on that happy face knowing i want more. i try to be confident, but also its hard knowing that she is still seeing the other guy that i dont know anything about. i will go with her tonight, be happy and see where it leads, i just dont know if i will slipe up AGAIN!!! i have read it takes a month for every year you were married to fix this, man i cant wait that long. thats 17 months for me, is she worth it? i want to hope so, but that is a long time.