Dear jtolic,
I really think our spouses can't not dance. They just dance far away and some pretty wild steps sometimes. By dancing our own dance with all the integrity we can muster we regain ourselves and sometimes our spouses. A crisis like big marital trouble is something that can get you to do things you never thought you could because it is so powerful. It is a rare opportunity to look yourself in the eye in a mighty bright light and to get yourself to match up to who you want to be. Now, I agree there's got to be a better way... but we might as well use what we got

Dear Me2,

I can see your secret: humor! Good for you! Awsome detachment skills too! I'm confused about your situation and (sorry) don't have time to read up on you like I will later, is the A ongoing? If so what is being said about it between you, if anything?

Dear LeeP,

I loved your "tangent". I'm curious about your idea of detaching from events. Could you say more?

[ October 29, 2001: Message edited by: alottolearn ]