quote:Originally posted by KentS: I no longer feel responsible for fulfilling my W's needs.
I agree that we aren’t responsible for ALL of our spouses needs, and we certainly can’t guess what they are.
BUT
Some of their needs should only be fulfilled by us. The easiest example to cite is sex. We could debate whether or not sex is a “need”, but we could also debate intimacy, companionship, friendship…
Yes, there are needs that we aren’t responsible for. Others that we can only help, and others that are completely out of our sphere of influence.
Getting back to the initial question from ALTL: How do we express our needs without it coming across as criticism?
I think that by taking responsibility for some of our spouses needs, helping with others, and not standing in the way of the rest, we can make our spouses more amenable to doing the same thing for us. When our spouse starts to feel more giving, we can start to ask.
