by GH: In response to the rest of what you said, a couple things jumped out at me. First was that you seem very motivated by fear. I think you need to work on that. You know that, but I figured I would say so anyway.
You’re right, I know that, and something I need to work on… one of the things about being a people pleaser I think. I’m always afraid of what other people will say so I hold back even though it hurts me. She did tell me at one point during the early days of the A being out in the open that she hated or resented the fact that we don’t fight, we don’t argue, that I just keep my feelings to myself. I would like to change that, I’ve been a little more vocal than I was before but again this fear that I might overdo it is what scares me. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t. I’ll have to rethink that part of my sitch.
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by: whatisis Limboland is a tough place to be. If you push will she bolt?
Again, the fear is there again, I’m afraid to push, because I’m unsure of what the outcome would be. I see it, I feel it, that she cares for our family and that she wants to work on our M but to tell her that I will only believe her that she’s is really committed when she dumps the OM is hard. It looks like I’m controlling.
