Quote: W thinks that one day, I will just give up and get fed up with her and just call it quits and kick her out.
With all that kind of talk around here recently, it's no wonder the WAS all think we'll ALL do this some day. I guess it's just how they think. Sadly, it's also how WE think much of the time. There's a reason (well, several) that we are told WE will be the ones to do all the hard work here. It's because WE are the ones still fighting for the marriage and unwillig to give up just because things SEEM bleak one day, week or month. Do we fight forever? No, but we fight so long as we can and not a minute less.
OT once told me (yes, it's this quote again, somewhat re-packaged) that I need to stop my bitching and complaining because I PICKED this path and now my suffering is nobody else's fault but my own. I am free to stop anytime I'd like, but so long as I am going to CHOOSE to fight, then I also CHOOSE to suffer the wounds of battle.
Having that said to me was a pivotal point in my progress because I was STILL thinking of myself as a victim and refusing to accept responsibility for my actions. I don't do that anymore. I FULLY accept responsibility for my situation and when I decide not to live this way anymore, I will make THAT decision and live with it.
So, back to my original point, we are told that one of the things that the WAS are afraid of is that we will do a "180" and quit on THEM when they finally come back so they stay away, not wanting to risk that pain...do you blame them?
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P.S. Thanks...I think...sometimes I think it's a curse rather than a blessing to be able to "talk" but again, thanks. I just hope I can help someone somewhere.
