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[Harmony]

alottolearn,
I'm struggling with the same feelings. I feel like it's my job to meet HIS needs AND it's my job to meet MY needs. There's just no fairness or equity in it.

Not only do I feel like the only adult in the home, but I tend to think of him as retarded since he just does not get the simplest of things, i.e. when you cheat on someone, you cannot expect them to trust you again without some effort on YOUR part.

I tend to get through each day by living in two worlds, the inner and the outer. My inner world protects me from the insanity of the outer world lived with him. I have found it futile to share my inner world with him, so I keep it to myself. I'm very protective of the inner (real) me.

Harmony