Thank you for your response. I asked b/c my H and I have not had any contact in almost 2 months (3 months separated).
Background: Married 9 months now, sep 3. H has history of depression. Decided to go back to school. I supported decision but,at one point led him to believe i wouldnt go with him. Eventually we agree, plan everything, than he drops the bomb. I don't know exactly what happened. He was/in a state of depression-but refused help. I received the love-not-in-love speech. No spark. Not attracted. It's all him not me. blah, blah, blah.
Anyway, we went our separated ways. Him to TX, me to my parents (NC). I've consulted w/Arnold, friends, family...most suggest moving closer to him. Can't see any other way. My plan would be to move ~80mls away, get a job w/my dream co. and hopefully start dating him. Something we seriously lacked in OR. Mentioned this to H few months back and he said it would be nice to have me there. But it would be more like friends.
Unfortunately, we aren't talking. I went dark, for whatever reason. maybe to escape for awhile. I e-mailed him to break the ice, but he never responded. He didn't remember my b-day either. I called last night, and got a vm on his cell phone. he could either have had it turned off or saw my # on i.d. and ignored it.
How far can you push contact when they don't respond? I don't want to make anything worse by seeming like i'm pursuing. Any ideas?
I wish more people posted on this topic. it would give us all so much more hope.
Thanks, kathy
For in the end we will conserve only what we love. We will love only what we understand. We will understand only what we are taught. - B. Dioum
