Thank you all so much for the insight. I think the baby step concept is what should be my expectation for now. H expressed that he would definitely be home again August 11th and in the interim, we would be seeing ea. other (hopefully the house vs. the apt.). I have to agree w/Jamie in that I don't want to come across controlling, by telling H he should really sell as it represents something negative to me. By the same token, I'll be true to myself and express how it makes me feel to be there if it becomes too difficult. I've already had a heart to heart w/H over this and in fact, H mentioned in passing that he could try and sublet. I didn't act too excited about the prospect and said it would be up to him to make that decision. I'm trying to stay away from old MO's of trying to control. I think the more autonomous my H can feel, the more he would be willing to gravitate towards me and the R and want to do what's right (in theory anyway).
Again, thank you all so much for your wisdom. I will definitely refer to your responses and remember to keep up the DBing. Although, H has the book right now. Oh I guess I can purchase another, right.
