having 'been there, done that' I can tell you one thing: Neither of you should be giving the other your 100% all at this stage of the game. Giving too much too soon can do severe damage to the long term viability of your "new" relationship. You both need to 'work' your way back fully into each others heart. It's a slow, trying process.
Take it slow and easy. Use good communication skills and know when to back off. If you are unsure of the meaning of something your H has said or done, then simply tell him how you interpreted his words/actions and ask him if that is how he meant for his words/actions to come across. That is a first step toward successful reconciliation and something you can do when dealing with anyone, not just your H.
Lower your expectations a little also. You don't need the undue pressure of worrying if H will meet your stringent requirements right away.
Good Luck, and RELAX, you'll do just fine.
Greg
[This message has been edited by gbon (edited 07-31-2001).]
