It 's been almost 2 weeks since my H indicated he wants to come home...we've been separated for almost 3 mos. and his anger has gone away over some very bitter fights. I guess my fear comes in to play b/c H would still like to keep his lease (which ends the end of May 02) for the mere fact he and I can use it as a getaway place while being in the City. We've been in dating mode as he's still living at the apartment until Aug. 11th. It's been a positive thing for both of us as the shock of moving back right away might have been tremendous. I got upset with him the other night while waiting for him at his apt. (not angry but hurt) expressing how hard it was for me to sit in his 'new' place even though he said he is moving back. My C thinks I should communicate to H that it's not a good idea for me to be there psychologically as it represents our separation, his new life, etc. I seem to be fine when H is there but I guess waiting a few hours (he was late coming back from hearing music) I was reading and staring at the walls and it hurt like hell. When H returned I let him know that I wasn't mad at his being late but it hurt to be there. He didn't want 'to go there' as he was looking forward to our going out and having some fun. When we got back from our outing, I let him know that I was very upset that he didn't see his part in all of this. We didn't get too flared but I feel it was a backslide on my part.
I guess my question is, am I out of line for putting my foot down regarding the apt. and suggest we sublet it and/or expressing I don't feel comfortable being there? I feel so vulnerable about this and I know I need to focus on the positives rather than the negatives. Would someone respond-I need a pep talk. tx, s
